Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Dad moments





















Today I skipped some work to make a gingerbread house with Reed at preschool.  From the looks of the gingerbread houses you could tell who's was the only one made with a Dad instead of an organized, decoration-talented Mom.  But I'm ok with that!


I frequently have moments with the kids that are so sweet and special that I feel the need to record them.  Today I had one.

5 minutes after scolding him for saying the word "stupid" and coughing for the 100th time without covering his mouth:

(driving in the truck, windows down, lots of noise from the wind, and Reed waving his hand through the air out the window)


Me (yelling over the sound of the wind):  "I sure love you lots!"
Reed yells back: "Yeah?"
Me: "Yeah!"
Reed:  "Yeah."

Friday, August 8, 2014

2013 in Review

I have a paper that is crumbled, wrinkled, stained and faded that contains important thoughts.  I wrote it soon after New Years '14 as a review and highlights of the previous year.  My intent was to put the details online shortly after.  Better late than never!

We are going to fill this in with pictures later, but before I delay I want to get my thoughts transferred from that beat up paper to our blog for the sake of my family records.

2013 IN REVIEW:

January: As I've mentioned before on here, I lost a good friend Beav Sorensen a few days before January.  His funeral was in January.  I think of him more than I thought I would, try to make sure his wife and kids are well, and miss him a lot.

February:  My Mom and Dad were able to return back to Resistencia, Argentina after coming back to Chandler to get my Mom medical attention.  Their decision to return was hard for me, I thought they'd stay home for good.  Candace and I had fun taking our family out on "Ranger rides" to Payson and Queen Valley, AZ.  We also enjoyed a fun boat ride on Tempe Town Lake with Kayla Sorensen and her daughters.

March: The biggest news of March was leaving my job at Crexendo after 3 great years.  The company had gone through so many transformations since I joined after getting my MBA in 2010; it was hard to leave but it was time.  I moved my family to Plano, TX to join the sales team at AppDynamics and looking back I definitely made the right decision.  We decided to rent out our house in Ahwatukee.  Also, I made a memorable trip to the dunes with Kody Miller and Tim Ray.  It rained the night we arrived but woke up to an empty and pristine riding area.

April: In a whirlwind of events, I finished at Crexendo, found a home to rent in Plano with Cbug, moved everything into our Plano home while sick, flew to UT where I met Cbug and the kids for Justin's wedding to Julia, and then flew the whole family to Plano.  Justin's wedding in the Oquirrh Mtn temple was great.  He and I had some epic fishing on the Provo River.  Also memorable was meeting Cody and Nikki Treese who quickly became great friends to us in TX.  I continued my mountain bike routine, waking up early to ride with a group of guys Saturday morning around Dallas trails.  Reed and I got a taste of "Fathers and Sons" camping in Dallas, which I would hardly call camping, ha.  Cbug and I instilled a hard rule of "Date Night" every Friday night.  We had lots of family time being away from the busy life we led in Phoenix and it was a welcome change.

May:  I became a Sunday School teacher and will always, always appreciate the influence I had on the 16-18 yr olds and the influence they had on me.  The people of Plano 8th Ward were terrific to us.  I got into some bass fishing, we made family park trips and bike rides an almost daily staple, and endured some CRAZY Texas wind and rain storms.  Work at AppD was great.  I flew to Boston for the first time since '96 for a trade show and we made a family trip to Broken Bow, OK to stay with the Treeses at a cabin.

June: ....

July:  I woke up with stomach pain thinking it was caused from cookie dough ice cream at 10:30pm the night before.  WebMD.com helped me determine I was probably having appendicitis and in fact, had my appendix removed soon after.  Not fun.

August:  Candace's mom Denise visited and had fun with us.  Charlotte's hair is unreal, standing up on its own and refusing to lay down flat.  We loved it.  I brought the family with me to San Fran for a work trip turned family trip to visit my brother Chris and his family.  We had tons of fun visiting neat sites and watching the cousins play together.

September:  The weather started to cool again (we enjoyed the seasons in Texas) and we cranked up the volume of our bike rides.  Cbug got a new fancy bike to pull the kids in.  Reed started pre school and loved it.  Cbug's best friend Chelsea came to town and we took her to the Plano Hot Air Balloon festival, which unfortunately, had nothing to do with Hot Air Balloons flying in the sky on that day, ha.  I finally was able to visit a friend I had done a lot of business with but not met, the owner of Caddis Fly Shop.  I flew to Oregon and spent the weekend fly fishing the Eugene area.  It was beautiful and a welcome change of pace from the demands of working at AppD.  Candace had some health problems while I was gone, putting a damper on my trip but showing how selfless she is by suggesting I complete my trip.

October:  We celebrated our 5 yr anniversary in UT fly fishing and checking out City Creek Mall in SLC.  Cbug outfished me and really got into it.  For Halloween we dressed up the kids as rock stars, starring Charbug as Rod Stewart complete with the hairdo.

November:  We had a lot of fun on Date Night, often with the Treeses.  We went to their house for Thanksgiving.

December:  Offered a promotion at Aryaka with the chance to work from home and live wherever I want, I made a really, really hard decision and left AppDynamics.  The people there are great, the company is close to going public and I had a lot of success there.  Looking back, I believe I made the right choice, although the VP of Sales Joe Sexton met with me 2 days before I was scheduled to have my last day and offered me a similar position in Phoenix with similar pay.  That was the first time he had ever done anything like that for anyone.  That made the decision to leave even harder but I think I made the right choice.

I flew to San Jose for training at Aryaka, drove my CEO's super cool Mercedes, and flew Cbug out to SJ for the company Holiday party.  This all took place while Dallas was covered in one of the worst ice storms in memory, making flights and travel near impossible.  We spent Christmas at Cbug's Mom's house and as always they spoiled us in every way.

PROUD I FINALLY TYPED THIS OUT AND I CAN THROW AWAY MY CHICKEN SCRATCH NOTES!

-
Curtis



Monday, January 13, 2014

I have to




I know its been a while Blogger but frankly I don't feel that bad because you've been replaced by a cooler technology called Instagram.

But something happened today that I had to record in a non instagram format.

Candace got her thumb cut by a blender while making dinner so I rushed her to the Emergency Room.  The Gondas were kind enough to watch our kids in a pinch (for the 2nd time, the 1st being when I had to get my appendix removed).  Once she got her 5 stitches we came home and I asked if Reed wanted to come get dinner with me from Rusty's Tacos.  On the way home our conversation went like this:

Me: "Thanks for coming with me to get dinner."
Reed: "I welcome."
Me: "You're my best friend"
Reed: "I your son.  And that means I give you snuggles ALL TIME"

Now if that isn't worth a blog post I don't know what is!


I will also quickly say that Reed got a "Cars" fishing pole for Christmas from Nana and Papa Heyman and he hasn't put it down since.

Charlotte is ALL ABOUT her babies.  She carries them wherever she goes along with their blankets and bottles and pillows.  She is in my favorite kid stage of 18-24 months. We can't get enough of her.


Sunday, February 17, 2013

Cheese Crisp Makes Me Happy

You know that feeling when you have SO much to do that you become overwhelmed and end up doing none of it?  Well, for me that is our blog.  So much has happened over the last 6 months that I don't know where to start writing here and ultimately I don't.  Instagram has replaced our blog and Facebook as mine and Candace's way of sharing our daily lives, however, it doesn't allow for the depth and story behind the images that the blog provides.  So with that, I'm just going to write!



2012 was a roller coaster that brought us incredible blessings, trials, and tears.  We saw my brother Taylor off on his mission to Chile.  He is doing great.  I love his Monday emails, his upbeat attitude and the memories that come to mind of my mission in Campinas, Brazil.  Growing up Taylor was everyone's favorite.  Nothing has changed!

 

My Mom is continuing to blow everyone away with her faith and determination as she recovers from the effects of her stroke in September.  My Mom spent 2 months being cared for in Buenos Aires while my Dad attended to the mission some 10 hours away.  Difficult. They came home to Chandler during December and January at the doctors' request to rehabilitate.  They chose to go back to the mission as soon as possible and left in early February.  Mom is supposed to take things slowly and not overwork herself (which "used to be" a bad habit of hers).  It was hard to see them go to Argentina a second time.  The part that brought relief was knowing its what they wanted and how badly those missionaries need and love my parents.  Mom is playing the piano again and spoiling the Elders and Sisters with her baked goodies.



 Through this trial I've come to many realizations, mostly about how great my family is.  When my siblings could have complained they complimented.  When they could have chosen to be offended they chose to ask what more they could do.  When it seemed solutions, and answers, and blessings were few in number, their faith and strength proved resolute.  To Jen, Bub, Chris, and Taylor - you guys are great examples to your older brother.


 



2012 brought the loss of 2 friends.  Andrea Lemmon, the wife of a MBA classmate, passed away unexpectedly leaving behind 3 cute girls and a husband I've always admired named Kyle.  I first met Kyle as a college freshman in 1998.  In December the brain cancer of a close friend, "Beav" Gary Sorensen, spread rapidly taking him from his wife Kayla and 2 young daughters.  Beav, like Kyle, is everyone's friend and always has something nice to say.  He became my mountain bike and fishing partner.  We drag raced our trucks, ate hot wings, went shooting, watched football, made visits together to people in our ward, and tended to our little ones together in the church halls hoping to avoid Sunday School.  Beav taught me a lot about loving everyone.  I hope my efforts to take care of his family are doing justice to the love I have for him.





2012 brought Candace and I our angel-baby-squishy-lovebug: CharlieSnuggles.  She is an even easier baby than Reed was!  People are amazed at her calm demeanor and plump, smiley cuteness.  At 8.5 months she has 2 bottom chompers, blue, blue eyes shaped like Candace's, a sandy blonde fuzzy head and cheeks that demand to be kissed.  I think she is as chubby as Reed was but on a smaller, feminine frame appropriate for our little girl.  She loves to be tickled, tossed, and twirled.  Candace enjoyed decorating a room for a girl and all the fun girl things that come along with having a daughter.

A younger Reed and a Charbug photo for comparison:







RooBear is my best lil friend.  If I can take him with me, he comes.  He's at a fun age of asking what everything is and making sentences of his own that sometimes include his feelings.  One day I was teaching him about the word "happy".  Later in the day for no reason Reed came to me and said "cheese crisp make Reed happy''.  We've been sick lately.  Reed said to Cbug in a sad voice: "Reed hab cough, Reed hab runny nose, Reed hab sick!".  He's such a good kid and plays well with others.  He especially loves to go to Papa's house and play with cousins "Nolie" and Kyle.  Reed loves to run and is fast.  Like Dad, he loves anything with wheels, playing with tools, and being outside.  He enjoys making Charlotte smile and giving her kisses and bear hugs.  Reed is a big snuggler.  Oh, and I have to mention he's constantly talking about temples.





Everything else is going pretty well.  I'm still mountain biking.  Cbug is buggin along.



While we take a lot of pictures, very few have the 4 of us in them.  Thanks to Candace's friend Gritt we have a nice one to end this post with.

Monday, October 8, 2012

Argentina was full of surprises

Many of  you know my parents are leading the LDS church's missionary efforts in Resistencia, Argentina where my brother Chris was a missionary a decade ago.  Candace and I talked about visiting them once Charlotte is old enough to stay behind, sometime in 2013.  A few months ago Candace felt prompted that we should visit my parents ASAP.  It seemed impossible to plan something so complex on short notice...who would watch Reed, how would 4 month old Charlotte react to 48 hours of traveling through 5 different airports, could we get passports (including one for baby girl)...could we do it financially?  We prayed that that if we were to come now, please help us find a way to do it.  The Lord blessed us.  I told my parents I'd be coming but we didn't mention anything about these 2 stowaways.  Notice the blue bin, that is where Charlotte slept on the overnight flight to Buenos Aires.



There is a huge river across the street from one of the B.A. airports.  We saw literally hundred of people fishing it and not catching anything.  The water is a super nasty brown color.  We did see these carp strung up from a tree nearby. Once in B.A., we took a taxi to another airport and flew to Resistencia where my parents would be waiting.


If you haven't seen the previous blog post with the YouTube video of us surprising my parents with Charlotte and Candace at the airport, you need to check it out.  The WHOLE trip to Resistencia I had butterflies in my stomach as I anticipated surprising my parents.  Cbug and I reviewed Plan A, B, C & D as we weren't sure exactly what the layout of the airport was and where they'd be able to see us exit the plane.  Long story short, it was great to see my parents again and catch my parents off guard.

There were a lot of little miracles about the trip.  One of them was how incredibly sweet Charlotte was the entire trip.  Would you believe this 4 month old only cried once in 8 days of traveling?!?!  What a sweetheart. 

Without my parents expecting this lil angel, we had to get creative at times.

Without a doubt, one of my favorite things about the trip was seeing my parents in action. To see a room of 80 men stand when my parents walk in is touching.  These missionaries have so much love and respect for them, and vice versa.  Here my Dad is emphasizing the importance of "having a plan" and "being accountable".  Yeah, I may have heard those words from my Dad a few times (or more).  Cbug and I had the chance to address the missionaries, which was neat.



Can you believe my mom cooks for all of these guys?  Think of how much teenage boys eat, then times it by 2 to equal the hunger of a missionary, then times it by 80 or so.  THAT IS A LOT OF COOKING.

Who better to handle the task than my Mom?  She's amazing.  The missionaries love her cooking and now her desserts are known around the world.

Being with my parents and just hanging out was invaluable.  They are the same good people as when they left.  They are constantly traveling, helping missionaries with physical and emotional problems, lifting up both members and non-members of the Church in a large part of N.E. Argentina.  Somehow they find time for each other and Sunday skype sessions with my siblings and I.




Family is the best.

My Mom loves to exercise by walking in the morning.  Candace and I joined her one morning.  It was neat to get out and walk the streets of my parents' city.  Here is a pond covered with lilies.

Soon after our morning walk with Mom, we packed my parents' Toyota full of our stuff and set out to tour the mission.  About 20 mins into our trip we were stuck at a bridge for over an hour.  The reason?  Someone was threatening to commit suicide!

After a stop at McDonalds we reached our destination, a Howard Johnson hotel along the Parana' River in the middle of nowhere (Ituzaingo).  We were the only ones there and the only car in the parking lot.  I was excited as the next morning my Dad and I set out to fish on the Parana', the 3rd largest river in the world. 



Cbug was happy to let my Mom play Grandma all day long while she took in the sun and sights.
Dad and I covered some 30 miles of river fishing with live eels and super long earthworms.  We had some bites, but no fish.  It was pretty cold and we think that had something to do with the inactivity of the fish.  The best part was hanging out with my Dad and chit chatting.



That evening we drove to Posadas to have a bbq/adado at the home of some local Church leaders that my parents love, the Taus.  This was also one of the best parts of the trip.  Within minutes it was easy to recognize the the Taus are an exceptional family and good friends to Mom and Dad.  Their daughters adore Mom and no doubt, Charbug now, too.  This experience brought back a lot of memories from my mission, when we would enter the homes of loving, humble families to eat and laugh and pray with them.  Our time with the Taus was accompanied by a special spirit.




The next day we traveled to a rural mine in the jungle.  Grandma got snuggle time while Cbug hand selected some beautiful earrings with green gems mined at the location.

As if the trip wasn't already amazing enough, we took a dirt road a few miles into the jungle past a colony of Indians living in huts to discover this amazing resort!!  Check out the views.





Our hotel was incredible, surrounded by jungle and wild life.  Buildings were connected by 3 story high bridges that made you feel like you were staying at an exotic tree house.

Soon after arriving here is when my Mom's health took a big turn for the worse. I'll explain later.  Despite her feeling ill, she and my Dad insisted we tour the nearby Falls of Iguazu, one of the 7 Wonders of the World.  We hired a guide and had the park mostly to ourselves.  The weather was great.

These ant eater/raccoon like animals appeared out of nowhere eating people's food.  I guess these people didn't mind so much.


Cbug and I really enjoyed walking the park.  My guide was fluent in Spanish, English, and Portuguese, which allowed me to practice my Portuguese for an afternoon.
We saw a lot of cool animals and sights. 

Pictures never do these types of experiences justice, but you can imagine the thundering sound and refreshing feel of mist from these waterfalls.



That raft looks like it was a prop in "Honey, I Shrunk the Kids".

We got drenched standing here 5 seconds for a photo!  Baby Charbug was an angel and didn't fuss despite the humidity, long walks, loud sounds, and irregular feeding times.  That's my Baby Sweets!


After visiting the falls I trekked down to the river by our hotel alone to put my Dad's fly fishing gear to work.  Unfortunately, security said it was too dark to fish.  I snapped a photo before leaving.  Brazil is the other bank in this photo.  Our travels had us wiped out but Cbug was representing the Hot Moms Club well at all times.
Waving bye to Buenos Aires.

HAHA, ok, the thing that caught me off guard the most about our trip was how enamored everyone was with Charlotte.  No joke it was like she was famous.  Airports, airplanes, restaurants, churches, malls....you name it...Argentines LOVED to stare at and flirt with my Charbug.  "Que linda!" we heard over and over.  She is only 4 months old and already a head turner!  I joked that if we created a Facebook Fan Page for Charlotte, she'd have 1000 fans within a week and 998 of them would be Argentines.


On our way in and out of Buenos Aires we spotted the LDS temple there.  Very cool.




 After we had visited the mines my Mom complained of headaches and took some migraine medicine.  Later when we had reached our hotel, my Mom sort of collapsed.  My Dad laid her on the bed and called the Church's "area doctor".  My mom was weak, feeling numb on one side, pale,  nauseous, and obviously not doing well.  The doctor thought her symptoms were probably due to the strong migraine medicine she had taken earlier and that the symptoms should go away as the medicine wore off.  My Dad and I gave her a blessing.  The next morning came and she was not doing any better.  Long story short, plans were made to fly her to Buenos Aires where she could be attended to by excellent doctors.  Before I knew it our time with my parents was cut 2 days short as Cbug and I were saying our goodbyes to my Mom, on a stretcher,  and my Dad as he accompanied her in the ambulance and flight.  We were crushed.


The following week was very difficult for my family and I.  The doctors discovered my Mom had a stroke and while she is expected to make a full recovery, a challenging road of physical therapy lies ahead.  Things that were easy before, like walking, holding a child, or baking, are no longer simple tasks.  She is making great strides in her rehab and we're all very proud of her.  My family has seen a number of miracles, including my wife's prompting for us to come to Argentina when we did to support my parents in the moments my Mom was ill.

My parents' faith is amazing.  They've decided to stay in Argentina and continue to serve the people and missionaries there instead of coming home at this time.  I have mixed feelings about this, but realize the Lord will bless them and us as He has already done so many times.  My siblings have all reached out to support each other and my parents in many Christlike ways.  For example, my sister Jen is headed to stay with my mom for a few weeks in Buenos Aires as Mom recuperates and Dad returns to the mission 12 hours or so away.  Cbug will have Jen's 2 sons for a few weeks so pray that she doesn't go crazy watching 4 kids under 4!  We're happy we can help in a small way.  So many people helped us make this trip possible, especially Jen who watched Reed and flew with him to UT so Candace's mom Denise could watch him while Jen helped my sister Allison with her newborn Elleanor Rae.  Also, during our trip my brother Chris' wife had a baby boy named Pierson Scott.  It has been a crazy time for the Heyman family.  Thanks for your thoughts and love.